First of all, apologies for making this blog post seem to be yet another outlet for my vents, (yeah.. Facebook is too 'public' and this blog is worldwide view hur hur #mylogicbeatsyourslol) but really I hope we all can learn or pick one or two things from it. Since, after all, this is a blog for learning about each other's achievements and mistakes.
Since, it's fresh.
No I've not been in any steady relationship since my last mega post. If I were to put my life into analogy, it would be somewhere between standing on top of a very high cliff with 4 directions to jump from and if this is Hanukkah (sorry, not a jew, no offense intended) it would be to put out the flames one by one from that multiple-candle-holder thingy.
Contemplating or not, I've learnt a few lessons on relationships. One being courage.
Like, duh, it takes courage to even start a relationship, to confess all that. No brainer right? It's a big thing and possibly long term commitment is involved, of course we are scared of all the possibilities that lies ahead. But how often do you actually see it presently looming on your fate? Kids, you may or may not get this. It's okay.
I've recently read this article about how many people fall in love but how many of those love are them being in (love)? The author's POV seem to be that he/she can fall in and out of love, but have been only 1 time whereby author is actually (being) in love.
Drawing from this conclusion I figured that love should come as a natural thing. True, I was told recently that one person always falls in first before the other one follows. Keyword here is follow. Or acquire the same love, later. Many stories often told how timing is everything. Time for everything, even the bible has a verse on it.
Since it's natural, hence my logic brain is saying that love should not be forced. Natural, like falling. Natural, like following with consent, like water flowing downstream, and not at all dragged in. Songs may write about how one party was ultimately dragged in too deep that they settle or (where the other scenario holds) cannot come out. No choice. But really though?
My principle is choice. There has to be a choice somewhere. Our actions and ultimately our behaviour is commanded by the choices that we make on a daily basis. This is universal law. We choose to be in the relationship that we are in. We choose to hold on or to back out. Where genetics and heritage to be the only two things that we don't have a say in, we can choose just about everything else. Same for Christianity - truth is: everyone of us is Child of God. It is then ultimately our choice to believe in our actual identity, or to shun it. Choice is always there for us to decide upon, and from there, it builds our character.
It takes bravery to be in love. It takes your all to bare it all down in the hopes that the other party will accept it and and not slaughter it. It takes both party to be vulnerable together. It takes courage to fall off the edge of the cliff. Forgive me for saying that the faint-hearted will choose to wait on the edge of the cliff for a beautiful scenery ahead, one that they can see beyond and changing every hour.
So if you are currently in a relationship, I want to commend you. It takes guts, courage and a lot of heart to be vulnerable. Relationship is not for the weak-hearted. It is for the strong. The lucky ones would fall together, in tandem.
But if you are like me, recovering and mending your heart. I pray that we do not take too long and find back our courage to love. Stepping out of the comfort zone is the first step to success right? May God help us all in this one. Here's a little all-too-famous comic strip taken from http://zenpencils.com/.
